Living a life of emotions and not understanding emotional IQ is like trying to go towards the destination without knowing the path. Developing the skill to identify and effectively use emotions for a useful purpose is the need of everyday life. This need raises when these emotions influence a person in a destructive way.
Emotions when left free can mostly create troubles for a person. Unmanaged emotions are the driving forces which pull a person to disaster. For example a person gets angry and fails to control his anger; as a consequence he gets broken relationships, loosing friends and even physical illnesses like blood pressure and heart problems etc. Like these unmanaged emotions leads a person to many evil actions.
An emotionally intelligent person will first understand his own life of emotions as well as others and then will use emotional IQ to handle them in an efficient manner. For understanding your own emotions it is necessary to dig deep and find out the science behind the formation of emotions.
Scientifically, the formation of motions is not directly by their own, a proper system make them happen. When we get information from the environment and from the situation through our five senses, our brain translates that information in the light of pre made patterns. Our brain identifies those information and release special hormone which dissolves in our blood stream and generate our emotions.
After the production emotions don’t stop here. It further makes our behaviors take place which are shown as our reactions. Thus our reaction to any situation is indirectly caused by our emotions. It means that if we control our emotions our actions and reactions would automatically become under control. But we won’t be able to change our emotions in real life situation where the trigger to our emotion would be unpredictable.
In such uncertain situation managing emotions to avoid undesirable consequences will always be difficult. In real life situation everything will be uncertain. No one of us knows what is going to happen in the next moment. So it requires proper knowledge and skill to deal with real life happenings.
Emotional intelligence comes with a proper self-image. Without being strong in your own eyes you won’t be able to change your emotions. People who see themselves always in a good state and think that they have the ability to handle the situation create a good self-image in their mind. With repetition and continuous positive communication with their inner self their mind get the more clear picture and thus it send positive signals to the nerves system and they become able to handle everything.
Before working on your emotions think about your self-image. Do you have a good image of yourself in your mind? Think good about yourself and give positive signals to your mind and your nerves system. Don’t put yourself internally down. Make your self-communication energizing. Forgive yourself and stand up with your inner strength and be strong to live life with your full potential.
After building your self-image you are prepared to deal with the difficulties of life. Get ready, anytime your emotions will be triggered by any stimulus. If such situation happens and your emotions get to their peak and you feel losing your temper. At this time just force yourself to stop and let everything happen. Don’t outburst immediately. Push yourself to let go everything.
If you become able to not let yourself react on your emotions immediately, know it you won the half battle. Now it’s time to divert your mind to something that make you feel relaxed. Shift your thinking from the triggering stimulus to something positive.
Mind shifting will make you relax and calm and if you become relaxed you will be able to think more positively and rationally. Think about the long term results of the reaction and take the best decision to react to the situation which will be beneficial for you as well as for others.
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